Relationship Advice: How to know when to leave a relationship
If you're fortunate, like I have been, you will get the chance to spend some of your time with some pretty amazing people. You'll get to learn new jokes, see what someone else does in the bathroom, hear what's truly in another person's heart, have some wild sex,...
Best Days of Your Life: Communicating what you really mean
As I was working on NaturalDogBlog yesterday, I heard a single sound that changed everything in that moment for me: "da". I glanced over at my son, who had been nearly asleep as he lay nursing in my wife's lap, but who now was looking up at me with the biggest...
Blogging Tips: Choose something with emotional content when you need something to write about
I think that among my friends I'm probably beginning to sound like a blog-a-holic. I can't help it - giving myself time each day to writing about the things that matter to me most and the potential for earning a living at it inspires me. In particular, it inspires...
Sharing the Wealth: Five blog articles that have recently inspired me
Sometimes as I pound away on the keys here in my home, I forget that blogging is a community event. I love to write, sharing stories of my life and some useful (hopefully) bits of wisdom along the way. Equally as much as the writing, however, I love to read other...
Personal Development: How to get a job when you have no experience
When I was 22 years old and fresh out of college, I would walk down the streets of Portland, Maine imagining what it would be like to do all of the jobs that I saw people doing in their daily lives. I hadn't yet decided to join the software industry, so I literally...
Personal Development and Overcoming Analysis Paralysis: Find your intuition and learn how to trust it
How many times have you had a difficult choice to make? And of those times, how many times have you been caught up in a headspin of trying to figure out what the best choice was? Did anyone ask you what your "gut" was telling you? And did you know? If you did know, did you follow your gut's advice? And how did that work for you? Or was it so difficult for you to figure out the "right" decision that you never made any decision? Our gut feelings represent our intuition, and listening to our intuition is the key to overcoming a stalled decision-making process. In this article, we're going to talk about how to figure out what your intuition is telling you, and why it's important to trust your intuition.
Best Days of Your Life: My Search for a home for the floatation tank
In my job in the software industry, there has occasionally been some idle time - which before I got all "focused" like I am now (Thank you Mr. Daytimer) was devoted to random Google searches for random interesting stuff. During one of these searches, I stumbled...
Best Days of Your Life: Choices and the Search for Home
When I was seventeen years old, my father and I drove together from Maine to Southern California, where I was going to be attending college. Back then I was your typical rebellious teenager, and the two of us were definitely headed into some of the more rocky moments...
The Law of Attraction and Life as Improvisation: Breathe and say YES
I went to clown school. Yes, you heard me right: clown school. It wasn't "white face and big scary hair" clown school, it was "eccentric performing" clown school- in the style of Buster Keaton and Charlie Chaplin (also known as "theatrical clowning" or "physical comedy"). While I did practice things like "walking an imaginary tightrope with your fingers" and "20 ways to slide off a chair", I also learned some things that have been very practical in real-life applications. In clown school you learn how to walk onto an empty stage in front of an audience and create a world, a world in which you are fully present. It's being fully present, in the moment, that creates moments of comedy (and tragedy). Basically the only way that you can live a balanced, well-rounded life is to be fully present for each moment of your life - that way you can have the most successful improvisation possible (because each moment of our lives is an improvisation). Clown school taught me some important life lessons, and in this article I'm going to share the two most important lessons with you.
Law of Attraction: The Compound Interest of Your Life
Every day we are making choices that affect the course of our entire lives. I'm not telling you this to make you overly self-conscious about your decisions ("what does it mean for my future if I have oatmeal this morning?!?"), but instead to make a point: YOU have...
PhotoReading Course Review Disc Eight and Deluxe versus Classic
This morning I finished the final disc in the PhotoReading Whole Mind System Course. Since this is the final review that I will write (this time around, anyway - plan on a "PhotoReading revisited" sometime later), I decided to give my thoughts a few hours to gel. ...
PhotoReading Course Review Disc Seven
Welcome back! Disc Seven of the PhotoReading Course goes step-by-step through the entire PhotoReading Whole Mind System with a book of your choice. I chose "The Book - On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are" by Alan Watts. It's a book that I've been carrying...
Photoreading Course Review Disc Six and Lucid Dreaming
I'm heading into the home stretch of the PhotoReading Deluxe Course, which I have been taking (and reviewing) for the past week now. Disc Six of the course introduces mind mapping and a few different ways to mind map (which we implement first with Paul Scheele's book...
PhotoReading Course Review Disc Five and Natural Brilliance by Paul Scheele
Well, I don't know about you - but I'm excited to start writing about...something ELSE for a change! I'm following through on my commitment, though, and continuing on through the PhotoReading course. With Disc Five of the PhotoReading Deluxe Course, I'm officially...
Photoreading Course Review Disc Four and Talking to Win Paraliminal
Welcome back to my PhotoReading Course Review. I'm halfway through the course now, having just finished disc four. Disc four of the PhotoReading course focuses on Photoreading your first book - meaning you Prepare, Preview, and then PhotoRead the book, followed by...
PhotoReading Course Review - Disc Three
Welcome back to my series of reviews of the PhotoReading Deluxe course. This morning I completed Disc Three, which was quite a bit shorter in duration than the previous disc. It was forty-one minutes total and exclusively focused on the PhotoReading step - the step...
Photoreading Course Review - Disc Two
It's Labor Day weekend here in the USA, and for those of us in Maine it usually marks the end of the summer. While technically the summer lasts for another few weeks, the cries of children on school playgrounds (did I say "cries"? I meant "screams of delight")...
Photoreading Course Review - Disc One
My PhotoReading review begins. Just to recap: on Thursday Steve Pavlina renewed the discount offer for the PhotoReading course, which became my kick-in-the-ass to actually USE the course (which I had purchased months ago). So yesterday evening I sat down with the...
Photoreading: An experiment begins as I embrace the Photoreading system plus some thoughts about Steve Pavlina
Ten months ago, in a burst of personal development enthusiasm brought about by several nights of zealous consumption of the contents of Steve Pavlina's website, I decided to buy the PhotoReading Deluxe system. I was so inspired by what Steve Pavlina wrote about it (and the generous discount being offered) that I decided to give it a whirl - my life had been busier than I had ever experienced, and my time to read (something that I had always treasured) had all but evaporated. That was ten months ago, and all I have to show for it, at the moment, is a bunch of e-mails from the Learning Strategies corporation trying to get me to buy other stuff (OK - maybe I'm an easy target - I also bought a bunch of the Paraliminal CDs at the same time). Today Steve Pavlina re-offered the PhotoReading discount to readers of his site, and I've let that be my kick-in-the-ass to get started on the program. I bought it, after all! Plus, I figure that many of you will be interested to hear about how well the program works as you consider buying it, and this will be my opportunity to share my experience with you.
The Law of Attraction and The Best Days of Your Life
In the Joy of Sadness, Steve Pavlina addresses ways that a particular state of consciousness can transform a negative experience of a negative feeling into a positive experience of a negative feeling. Our emotions happen within us as we're hit by the emo-tons of the world (like protons and electrons, but with emotional energy - something I write about on my dog training blog as well), and then we have the ability to make choices about our experience of those emotions. In this article, I talk about a method for getting to that state of consciousness, where you conjure up good feelings (by focusing on one of the best moments of your life) and then returning to whatever it is that caused the "negative" emotion...but with the good feeling putting a new spin on the "bad". And you get to experience one of the best moments of my life right along with me. 🙂
Free listening, free advice - my afternoon in the park (part two)
After four years, the wait is finally over - "free listening" made its debut earlier today in Post Office Park, in Portland, Maine. The premise is simple - I set up a couple of chairs in a visible location in the park, posted a sign offering "Free Listening & Free Advice (if desired)...donations accepted", and waited for takers (
Free advice, free listening (donations accepted) - part one
About 4 years ago I decided that I was going to grab a couple chairs and set up a small booth in one of the local parks here in Portland, where I would give my time to people as an advisor or simply a listening ear. The basic idea was that someone would sit down with...
Spiritual Healing in New York City
Toni, Dash, and I just returned from our trip to New York City, where we visited with friends, shopped a little, and saw the sights. I had only been to NYC twice before (and neither time for very long); however, Toni used to live there, and I was really looking forward to seeing the city through her eyes - as well as watching Dash take it all in for the first time. This was also our first vacation together as a family, and all of us were in need, I think, of some time away from our "normal" existence - a chance to see things through a new perspective as visiting a new place can only help you do.
What's been going on, anyway?
My apologies. Perhaps you've noticed that occasionally, over the past several weeks, this site would basically vanish off the map for hours at a time? You'd rush out to tell your friends about the dog training tips you'd seen here, and they'd tell you that when they...
Dog Training: Should I get a second dog?
Please note, all my dog training articles are now being published at naturaldogblog.com. With all of the modern emphasis on the pack instinct in dogs, and most training methods or models of dog behavior so “pack” focused, one of the many things that it seems every dog...
Dog Training: How to control your dog when they're off leash - use a LONG leash.
Please note, all my dog training articles are now being published at naturaldogblog.com. One of the most common questions I'm asked as a dog trainer is "how do I control my dog when they're off leash?" Well, if you're ASKING the question you should know that the...
Dog Training: How to relax your dog
Please note, all my dog training articles are now being published at naturaldogblog.com. We've talked about how our dogs are primarily responding to the emotional energy in the world around them. We've also addressed how a dog needs to be relaxed in order to deal...
Dog Training: Understanding how your dog feels the world
Please note, all my dog training articles are now being published at naturaldogblog.com. So we've talked a little bit about our dogs and the prey/predator dynamic at work in their lives. One of the central premises of Natural Dog Training is that our dogs feel the...
Dog Training: How to Turn a Negative Mindset into a Positive Mindset through Acceptance, Forgiveness, and Action
In the Abundance Mindset, Steve Pavlina talks about the “outrage script” – which essentially is the mindset where you judge others for spending what you might consider to be “outrageous” sums of money on “extravagances” (such as a $10,000 hotel room). He goes on to talk about how this script limits us in terms of our financial situation, essentially assuring us that we will be out of resonance with having the kind of money that would enable US to spend 10k on a hotel room without giving it a second thought. It got me to thinking how, in general, a negative mindset in the way that you view others, yourself, and your dog will be way less productive than a positive one, and, believe it or not, this has a major influence on your dog training progress as well.
Dog Training: How to be calm, assertive, AND relaxed – be the moose!
Please note, all my dog training articles are now being published at naturaldogblog.com. Ever since the rise in Cesar Milan’s (“the dog whisperer”) popularity, the mantra among dog owners (and some dog trainers) has been “calm and assertive, calm and assertive, I...